Pre-nup or Shut-up? Thoughts Inspired by Andrea Kelly & Brian McKee Marriage Drama. And a poll!.
Pre-nup or Shut-up? Thoughts Inspired by Andrea Kelly & Brian McKee Marriage Drama. And a poll!
Posted in Uncategorized on May 29, 2014 by ToiahFor the Love of Ray J – Season 2 Casting Call…
Posted in Entertainment Edibles... with tags Casting Call, For the Love of Ray J 2 on June 12, 2009 by ToiahWe all knew it was coming and now the day has finally arrived… I guess cocktail couldn’t handle the pressure or the fakery… Who wants next on the reality blitz of finding love with Ray J?
CASTING WOMEN TO DATE CELEBRITY 2ND SEASON OF “FOR THE LOVE OF RAY J” ON VH1
Ray J’s coming back for a second season of the smash For the Love of Ray J, and he’s looking for a few good ladies.
As viewers saw last season, dating a hip-hop star is a full-time job which includes red carpet events, the paparazzi and handling all the crazy fans. For Ray J, dating has never been an issue – it’s finding the perfect woman that can be harder than you think… especially when you’re a celebrity.
VH1 is looking for women with confidence, personality and class that can handle the pressure of being with a superstar and turn Ray J into a one-woman man.
To be considered, please email us ASAP your
TO SUBMIT:
Be sure to email ALL the information requested below to the email address listed for the city you’d like to audition in:
Los Angeles – la@rayjcasting.com
New York – ny@rayjcasting.com
Chicago – chicago@rayjcasting.com
Miami – miami@rayjcasting.com
Dallas – dallas@rayjcasting.com
Be sure to inlcude:
1. Your name (first and last)
2. Age
3. Occupation
4. Contact phone number(s)
5. Two recent photos of yourself (jpg format please)
6. A short paragraph about why you think you’re the perfect girl for Ray J
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Queen Latifah reveals she was abused….
Posted in Givin' You The Bidness!, Inspiration & Encouragement, Musings.... with tags healing, Queen Latifah, sexual abuse on June 11, 2009 by ToiahQueen Latifah has come forward and reveale the sexual abuse she experienced as a child… Revelation is the first step to healing and I am proud of Queen for coming out and telling the truth. It is a shame that sexual abuse is a very common occurrence for many women and girls.
Statistics reveal that 1 in every 4 women have been abused, and this is only reported cases. I am currently in the process of starting a non profit organization called LOVE ANGELS. Love Angels will be a safe haven for female victims of sexual abuse… Our program model will include, group therapy sessions where women can share their stories in a group of their peers s, and receive information and resources that will put them on the path to true healing and wholeness…. The goal is to get full healing from the residue of abuse and encourage women to understand and know that they do not have to live as victims for their entire lives. We want them to live whole, healthy and happy lives, even after abuse and this is possible with God’s help! Queen Latifah’s story is below… For more, get July’s Essence Magazine.
Queen Latifah opens up in a new tell-all interview regarding her sexual abuse as a child.
Latifah said she was abused by a teenage boy who was put in charge of her. “He violated me,” she tells Essence magazine. “I never told anybody; I just buried it as deeply as I could and kept people at an arm’s distance. I never really let a person get too close to me. I could have been married years ago, but I had a commitment issue.”
Latifah says she didn’t tell anyone till the death of her brother when she was 22 years old. “I had to get it off my chest. My mother felt terrible. She was kind of a country girl, so she wasn’t up on how slick people could be. When I told my dad, he said nothing,” she tells the publication.
The Cover Girl says for many years she blamed herself for the sexual abuse she endured but after speaking with her therapist she came to terms with it. “I was a kid, and I had no power or control over the situation. I really wish I’d had the strength and the knowledge to say something sooner, because I always wondered, Did he do that to someone else? But I accept that the time for action has come and gone.”
For more with Queen Latifah — including her feelings regarding her sexuality and weight loss — check out the latest issue of Essence magazine, on newsstands June 12.
Usher and Wife to Divorce….
Posted in Entertainment Edibles... on June 11, 2009 by ToiahRumor has it that Usher and wife Tameka are going to divorce…
I can’t say I am surprised about this but I do wonder what is going on with these two… Haven’t heard much about them in the press lately… I guess all is not rosey in the Usher world. Tameka now has two boys by Usher for a total of 5 children altogether…Well I hope she will be able to take proper care of them, not just financially but mentally and emotionally as well… Children need more than just to be fed and diapered… Hopefully her mind and heart are clear enough to be a good mommy. Oh well we will see how this story unfolds….
I wonder does he have any CONFESSIONS for Tameka?? Stay tuned.
I’m Back!
Posted in Journey with me... on June 10, 2009 by ToiahHello… Its been awhile since I have blogged… So many changes have taken place. I lost my job at the non profit and I am now BACK at Fox. I have to admit God is good. Somehow He sustained me during 5 months of my income literally being cut in half… God is so good and I am grateful for the people and opportunities He has sent in my life… During this time I realized that I want to open my OWN non profit and I fully intend to do so…
The older I get the more I realize that life is a gift, and every breath you take is truly a blessing… I will be back with more later, but I wanted to check in, say hello and WELCOME BACK!
Someday We’ll All Be Free… Walking in Love
Posted in Inspiration & Encouragement, Journey with me..., Musings.... with tags freedom, Hope, love, truth on December 3, 2008 by ToiahEvery once in awhile I like to reflect on certain historical events… When I saw this particular video, it brought a tearful, yet triumphant reflection of our forefathers who sacrificed and suffered greatly, so that we could experience the freedoms we have now.
My heart is grieved when I watch the news and see our young (and old) black men/women fighting and hurting each other… They are killing what the many people before us worked so hard to protect and preserve. During times of segregation, Black folks worked together as a team to stomp out the spirit of hatred, division, and violence against our people. We sought God and took proper action. In peaceful strength and diginity, we locked arms & hearts while marching and spreading the message of love and rightful acceptance…
Have we forgotten the struggle? We cannot afford to forget where we came from and who fought so that we could be here… President-Elect Barack Obama is truly more than just a Black President… He is a living representative of the blood, sweat, and tears of those who paved the way…
Even though the days of Jim Crow and segregation appear to be long gone (I think it still exists in subtle forms, but thats another post) what are we doing to stomp out division & strife in our individual lives with our loved and not-so-loved ones? Are we allowing prejudice, hatred, and confusion to rule or are we following the path of love?
Love never fails, but we often fail love… Love is the most valuable thing you can give AND possess. You will be amazed at what unfolds, when you lay down your weapons (and boxing gloves) and show someone the powerful tool of love… I challenge you to try it, and get back to me with the results..
The God of NO LIMITS!!!
Posted in Inspiration & Encouragement, Journey with me..., Musings.... with tags God, Hope, inspiration on November 21, 2008 by ToiahIts been awhile since I’ve had a musing… But I am back! And, I am back with a message for the children of the Living God! Please know that you serve the GOD of NO LIMITS.
I have been praying about limits this week… over and over I kept getting scripture and devotional readings that confirmed God was speaking about the fact that we are the ones that put limits on Him! Everything I read was talking about taking the limits off and inviting abundance in your life. How do we do that? Faith, Trust and Action… Faith that God can do it. Trust that He is going to actually do it. And the necessary action to make your dreams/desires come true.
We can no longer afford to be afraid of the unfamiliar. We cannot sit around apathetically wanting more but not actually trusting God to DO more. When it comes to God, action will not always seem logical. Action will not always mean DOING something. It might be God saying “Be still & know that I am God” or maybe it will require you taking some steps to put the dream or desire into motion… whatever the case may be, let GOD lead you in the path He wants you to go. When he talks, be obedient and willing. It is the Lord’s good pleasure to see us prosper and be at peace. He wants the very best for us, even when things don’t appear to be ‘best’…
Letting go of the old (whether an old attitude, mindset or thought pattern), will open your hands and hearts to recieve the new. Taking the limits off, means also realizing that what God has for you is most likely far greater than whatever it is you wanted for yourself. Whether that is a career, a ministry, finances, health, or a relationship… Whatever! God WILL do exceedingly, abundantly, above all you can ask or think according to the power that works in you.
Are you willing to exercise your God given power and move forward, even when the familar is comfortable? Its all up to you… just remember, you serve the GOD of NO LIMITS! Here are just a few examples of what our NO LIMIT GOD can do…
- Sarah & Abraham- Having a child when she was 90 and he was 100.
- Jesus, conceived by the Holy Ghost and being born of the virgin Mary
- The Children of Israel, leaving Egypt and crossing the Red Sea to freedom on dry land
- Jesus feeding 5,000 on 5 loaves and 2 fish, having 12 baskets left over
- The sun, moon, stars and sky
- The ocean
- The animals
- YOU!
- Jesus, laying down His very life for us (no man could take his life, He willingly laid it down), then rising on the 3rd day with all power and victory in His hands!!
If God can conquer death, HE can do anything!! So again, take the LIMITS OFF OF GOD!! Be blessed!
Below is another devotional I received today…
Limiting God – November 21, 2008
Don’t try to put any limits on Me, beloved. Don’t even think about putting limitations on Me and My ability to perform on your behalf, because there are no limits to My ability, no limits at all!
So hear Me today. Take My words to heart. I am a capable God. I am a God of extremes. I will go to any lengths to perform mightily on your behalf, so don’t even entertain the idea that I could ever fail you.
Don’t try to put limitations on Me and what I can do, dear one. Put your whole trust in Me. See that the outcome will produce many wonderful scenarios in your life. Rest in this knowledge.
Now remember: Don’t even entertain the idea that I would EVER fail you. I will never fail you. Put no limitations on My ability to perform on your behalf, no limitations at all. Trust Me to perform mightily on your behalf. I would never disappoint you. I could never disappoint one of My own. I am capable and I will perform in a mighty way on your behalf. Keep this in mind. Yes!
Replace those doubts with this truth: Your God’s desire is to bless His very own, beloved. He is capable and that is just what He is going to do! Trust Me in this, beloved. Trust Me to deliver My best and know deep within your heart that you serve a good God Who is quite able to show Himself mighty on behalf of His dear children. Trust Me. Watch Me and know the rich quality of My will as I shine forth the light of My glory and offer to you the peace and sustenance for which your heart seeks, for which your heart cries. I won’t let you down, beloved. Never! No, never would I let My very own beloved down!!!
Psalms 42:11 Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me?
Hope in God; For I shall yet praise Him, The help of my countenance and my God.
Ephesians 3:20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,
Psalms34:9-10 Fear the LORD, you his saints, for those who fear him lack nothing. The lions may grow weak and hungry, but those who seek the LORD lack no good thing.
The Raging Storms of life…
Posted in Journey with me..., Musings.... with tags inspiration, Jesus, Peace, troubles on October 23, 2008 by ToiahI have to admit I have had a rough couple of days… I have discovered some information that has me bewildered to say the least. I also realize that because of this one of my very personal dreams may be shattered right before my eyes and I will have to start all over again.
This has nothing to do with a relationship or even another person, but it does have to do with my livelihood. Right now I am struggling for answers to my questions and I don’t know what path to take. All I can do is put my trust in the Living God from Whom my help comes from. He is my Source and Strength. Without Him I would be completely lost. Knowing this fact, helps me to move forward and to pursue peace… even when the storm rages all around me, I must determine to have peace.
I know that this too shall pass but in the meantime, I must pray, trust and believe in the Lord Jesus. This is just another part of my life journey and I take each step with God as my Guide. He has not failed me yet and He won’t fail you either! If you are in a storm… quietly trust in God. Even the winds and waves have to obey Him!
MORE of… What Makes Men Cheat?
Posted in Givin' You The Bidness!, Musings.... with tags cheating, relationships on October 20, 2008 by ToiahI found this article online. MORE information on why men cheat. Interesting stuff here.
Counselor M. Gary Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and noncheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men’s infidelity.
What makes men cheat? Marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman dug through past research on male infidelity and found that most answers came from the wife’s point of view. “Wouldn’t it make more sense to ask the guys?” he thought. So for his new book, “The Truth About Cheating,” Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and noncheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men’s infidelity — including what cheating men say could have prevented them from straying. Here, some of his findings:
66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair.
The implications are a little scary: It isn’t just uncaring jerks who cheat. In fact, 68 percent of cheaters never dreamed they’d be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn’t done it, Neuman says. Clearly, guilt isn’t enough to stop a man from cheating. “Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings,” Neuman explains. “They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later.” So even if your partner swears he would never cheat, don’t assume it can’t happen. It’s important for both of you to take steps toward creating the relationship you want.
77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.
Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility. The message he’s subconsciously telling himself: “My friend is a good guy who happens to be cheating on his wife. I guess even the best of us do it.” You can’t simply ban your husband from hanging out with Mr. Wandering Eyes, Neuman says, but you can request that they spend their time together in an environment that offers less temptation, like at a sporting event or a restaurant for lunch rather than at a bar or club. Another strategy: Build your social circle around happily married couples that share your values — it’ll create an environment that supports marriage.
40% of cheating men met the other woman at work.
Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife.
In other words, a man doesn’t stray because he thinks he’ll get lucky with a better-looking body. ” In most cases, he’s cheating to fill an emotional void,” Neuman says. “He feels a connection with the other woman, and physical intimacy comes along for the ride.” If you’re worried about infidelity, focus on making your relationship more loving and connected, not on getting your body just right or mastering how to please him physically. (But know that physical intimacy does matter — it’s one of the key ways your guy expresses his love and feels close to you, so be sure to keep it a priority.)
Only 6% of cheating men had physical intimacy with a woman after meeting her that same day or night.
Actually, 73 percent of men got to know the other woman for more than a month before they cheated. This means that you may have time to see the warning signs before infidelity occurs — you might even see it coming before he does. Keep an eye out for these common signals: He spends more time away from home, stops asking for physical intimacy, picks fights more frequently, or avoids your calls. Your gut reaction may be to confront him, but most men will deny even thinking about cheating, especially if nothing physical has occurred yet. Instead, Neuman suggests, take charge of what you can control — your own behavior — and take the lead in bringing your relationship to a better place. Don’t hesitate to show your appreciation for him, prioritize time together, and initiate affection more. Give him a reason to keep you at the front of his mind, Neuman says. And be open about how you feel about what’s going on between the two of you (again, without mentioning any third parties). Try “I think we’ve started to lose something important in our relationship, and I don’t want it to disappear.” In the meantime, commit to keeping tabs on your relationship and doing what it takes to keep it working for you. SOURCE: Nicole Yorio from Redbook